Music lesson

by Wolf Pascoe on July 22, 2013

music-shopNick and I went down to McCabes the other day. McCabes is a local landmark, a musician hangout and store that has sold guitars, banjos, mandolins, fiddles, and musical etcetera for 50 years. I have some history with the place.

We were there to rent a guitar and sign Nick up for group lessons. He’s announced his intention to join the school band come September.

The Fern Hill band has one other guitarist and a couple of singers. (The keyboardist and percussionist graduated last month.) It might not sound like a big deal, joining an elementary school band of three.

It’s a very big deal, I assure you.

Nick was the band’s roadie last year. Not that they went anywhere beyond the schoolyard, but he helped with setup. It’s always been his practice to watch from a safe distance before leaping.

Nick doesn’t like performing on stage, and I thought he was going to be the roadie again this year, but a few months ago he decided to make the transition.

“This is a cool place,” he said, when we walked into McCabes.

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GOODALL

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I used to play a banjo—bought at McCabes when I was a teenager. Still have it. I also have a guitar, a Goodall, which I bought when I was much older at a dark point in my life, intending to learn it. I never did.

A Goodall is not just a guitar, it’s a Stradivarius of a guitar, hand made by a man named James Goodall and his son. They make about eight a month. My fingers can’t do it justice, but this is the sound:

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Whenever I show this guitar to friends who play, the conversation goes like this:

Wolf: “I have a pretty good guitar, you know. Ever hear of a Goodall?”

Friend: “Nope. Let’s see it.”

I hand the friend the guitar and he plays it.

Friend: “You play this?”

Wolf: “Not really.”

Friend: “How much do you want for it?”

Wolf: “Sorry, not for sale.”

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DONE DEAL

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Behind the register at McCabes was a woman, Nancy, whom I knew from long-ago summer camp days, when I played banjo. My girlfriend had been Nancy’s counselor. Nancy took down several guitars and Nick tried them on for size.

“This one’s nice,” Nick said, fitting his left hand around the neck of a Yamaha. Its color was deep forest green. It had a built-in acoustical hookup and tuner.

“I can give you a deal on it,” said Nancy. “It’s a lot cheaper than renting if Nick’s going to keep it a whole year.”

This was a road I’d gone down with Nick before, buying things he ended up not using—not unlike my purchase of the Goodall. I had told myself we were going to take this guitar thing slowly. I still had my doubts Nick would go through with the band plan.

“Please dad, it’s a really good deal,” said Nick. “Plus it has the hookup which is good for the band.”

“If we get this you have to learn to play it,” I said. “Done deal.”

“Duh.”

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FOREST

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Nora and I have a godson, Forest, in a family of musicians. Forest’s parents encouraged him to play violin when he was young. Sometimes I thought they encouraged him too much. Now he’s a young man, and plays guitar as well as violin, and sings, and is generally a prodigy.

Every child is different, I know. There’s a time to encourage, a time to refrain from encouraging.

At home, Nick takes his new guitar out and makes sounds with it, running his hands over the strings.

“Want me to show you a chord?” I say.

“No,” Nick says.

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LESSON

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Upstairs at McCabes, Nick sits with three other kids while the teacher, David, shows them tuning, some cords, strumming. David, who has been down this road before, divides the group up, gives each kid one chord to play, and conducts a song.

When David calls out “G” Nick focuses on his hands and strums along, not quite in rhythm. But the G chord is clear, and fills his corner of the room.

The lesson done, we head downstairs into the store.

“That was an hour?” says Nick. “I didn’t seem like an hour.”

“An hour,” I say.

“I need a strap, I think,” says Nick.

“I spent a lot on music this week,” I say. “How about I get you one when you’ve learned five chords?”

Nick agrees.

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CARNEGIE HALL

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In the car on the way home, this:

“Did I suck?” he says.

He says this like he believes it to be true.

“You made a chord,” I say. “You strummed the guitar and music came out—you were part of a song. How cool is that?”

What I want to say is, the more you practice the better you’ll be. That’s how you get to Carnegie Hall, isn’t it?

I don’t say it. I’ve already said enough.

“Dad,” he says, “What if I really get into it?”

“That would be just fine.”

“Would you let me play the Goodall?”

A pause.

“Your hands aren’t big enough yet. But if you really get into it, yes, you can play the Goodall.”

“Thanks, dad.”

If you really get into it, you can have the Goodall.

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Privilege of Parenting July 24, 2013 at 8:47 pm

I’m hearing the Boss, “Thunder Road,” newly contextualized as father son love as I read your words…

“Well, I got this guitar, and I learned how to make it talk
my car’s out back if you’re ready to take that long walk
From your front porch to my front seat,
Hey, the door’s open, but the ride, it ain’t free. ”

Of course he had me at “screen door slams.”

Meanwhile, I’m hearing a distant and lovely conversation between a Goodhall and a Yamaha

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Wolf Pascoe July 25, 2013 at 5:55 am

I like watching at his class. I’ve joined him practicing every day. I do look forward to that. I’ve always wanted to learn guitar.

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Jim Parkevich July 26, 2013 at 4:58 pm

Hi Wolf,
Math and music…anybody on the planet who has learned the fundamentals can speak the language of music to any person that cannot speak a word of the other’s native language Is that not a miracle ?? Whether alone or in a group, a guitar can fill someone’s life with a gentle joy or rockin’ “kick out the jams” enthusiasm..Maybe you might introduce Nick to the music of Wes Montgomery..
John Denver sang the most heartfelt songs, accompanied only by his guitar..These are only suggestions..but the more Nick is exposed to all types of music, I am sure he will make you proud when he makes the Goodhall sing for the angels….

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Wolf Pascoe July 27, 2013 at 2:44 pm

I believe I will introduce Nick to a few musicians.

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D. A. Wolf July 27, 2013 at 12:18 pm

The rapport you have with him is lovely, and the wisdom to say just enough and not too much, a very difficult place to dwell.

He’s a lucky kid.

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Wolf Pascoe July 27, 2013 at 2:47 pm

“the wisdom to say just enough and not too much . . . ”
Good editing helps.

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Barbara July 27, 2013 at 10:01 pm

I love how you handled it. It’s so true, every kid is different, and you never know if your encouragement is too little or too much. My oldest wanted a guitar when he was 14. He practiced a little, but it didn’t come easy, and before too long he stopped picking it up. It’s still sitting in a corner, getting dusty. Maybe he’ll pass it to his son one day…or maybe he’ll decide to pick it up and just enjoy playing it, without comparing himself to anyone else.
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Wolf Pascoe July 27, 2013 at 10:54 pm

Walking on eggshells–on too-young shoots of grass–all the time, we parents are.

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Kristen @ Motherese July 31, 2013 at 10:00 am

I worry about the steps in this dance a lot: how liberal to be in allowing the adoption (and abandonment) of various activities and then how hard to push (if at all) when some interest or talent is apparent. I wonder if I’ll ever get to that place of knowing restraint, of buying the guitar and waiting on the strap. (My eldest – a soon-to-be kindergartener – has a new obsession with rock climbing. Hmm…)

Crystal clear, as always, my friend.

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Wolf Pascoe July 31, 2013 at 11:36 am

I’ve discovered that kids need a lot of motivation. Lately, I’ve been practicing along side of Nick.

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